Blogpost 8: Our Greatest Fear

             While I was thinking about my next topic, the question in my mind came that what is people greatest fear? Then I decided to search about it and make it as my blog. By the way, I am taking a public speaking now and it is one of my fear. When I speech, my body starts shaking and heart beats get faster. In this blog you will know greatest fear of people. Guess it if you can! Don’t cheat! Death, Failure, Rejection or Heights that what you are thinking of but they are not the greatest fear. Just give up and read this blog to find the answer. 

                                           

 I read an article entitled “OurGreatest fear: Public Speaking” written by Laura West. According to this article, three out of every four individuals suffer from speech anxiety. Some people think the greatest fear is fear of death, but the number one fear is anxiety to speaking in public. Three out of every four individuals suffer from speech anxiety. Up to 5 percent of the world population, hundreds of millions aged between 18 and 54, experience this kind of social phobia in any given year. Women and men are equally affected.  She said our fear of speaking in front of others comes from our elementary days at school when we were called upon to recite or read in front of the class.

          Fear of public speaking or Glossophobia is a common phobia. It can range from slight nervousness to paralyzing fear and panic. Many people with a fear of public speaking avoid public speaking situations altogether, or they suffer through them with shaking hands and a quavering voice, just like me. But with preparation and persistence, we can overcome our fear. People fear public speaking more than anything else. Anxiety over a simple presentation can be debilitating. Moreover, sufferers are typically embarrassed and reluctant to admit they have a problem. They hide a deep concern about the phobia's effect on their careers in an industry that values presentation skills so highly.

 I think public speaking is scary because you're out there to the world exposed and in the spotlight. It's far more attention than most people want, especially those  who are self-conscious. Becoming comfortable with public speaking aligns with becoming comfortable with oneself. Now this fear is much more understandable to me. This must be one of most people's deepest fears - even those who are expert public speakers like US President Barack Obama, He get nervous beforehand, I'm sure. This fear is all about everybody taking notice of you, and listening to what YOU have to say. And... this is all about something that many people fear because they just don't do it often enough. So even though this fear is common - perhaps our greatest fear? 

         The absolutely worst thing you can do is ignore your fear and shy away from speaking publicly. Reducing your fear and anxiety is all about reducing your isolation and boosting your confidence. The only way to do that is to understand it, work at it, and get out there and speak.

Blogpost 7: Face Fear and Move Forward

Our fears are debilitating things that rob us of our energy, our dreams and our opportunity for redemption. They are very much like rubber bands flinging us back and forth into our comfort zones the moment we try and expand the possibilities. Our fears are indeed horrible figments of our imaginations, much like dreams seemingly real, yet completely fictional occurrences taking shape within the recesses of our minds.

           I noticed a long time ago that fear often comes packaged with enthrallment. We don't look away from accidents or guns; we give them our rapt attention. This tendency has obvious evolutionary advantages it's safer to keep deadly objects front-of-mind than to ignore them and as a result, our brains seem to be hardwired so that scary experiences contain hidden fascination, and fascinating experiences are often scary.

 I read an article entitled “Overcoming Fear in 8 Steps” by Dr. Carmen Harra.  I learned that  role of fear is to keep us safe, we do ourselves no favor by living in fear. To awaken our potential and draw in bigger possibilities, we must eradicate fear from our lives through daily efforts which promote our strength and self-security. After all, we all possess the inherent trait of everlasting courage which can guide us through most thing. Fear exists in our minds and manifests through our actions. Conquering our fears begins with the acknowledgment that oftentimes fear is a decision, not an inherent trait or needed component of life.

She included the eight steps to fearlessness into our everyday life and feel our fears melt away which are:

F -- Face the truth: Face the truth of your fears. Face what scares you head-on, and challenge your trepidation. 

E -- Erase negative imprints: Many times, your fears stem from your own negative experiences or from witnessing the hardships of those around you. It must be dealt with and its mental imprints removed permanently.

A -- Allow change:  Allow necessary changes to come your way, even if they may seem frightening at first. Every instance of change serves a purpose towards your highest good, and you will learn this in time.

R -- Relax:  It's essential that you take time out for yourself to relax and meditate and alleviate your anxieties. So calm down, take a breather and remind yourself that you will be shown how to resolve all things.

L -- Listen to your intuition: If you learn how to follow it, your intuition can banish your fears. This is because your intuition is like a mental GPS into the future, so that you can sense what's to come, where you need to go and ease your apprehensions of what tomorrow might hold.

E -- End feuds:  In order to nurture fearlessness, you must make peace with those around you and understand that their intentions are not to cause you harm.

S -- Selectivity:. You have to pursue things which don't inspire fear in you and make you feel completely comfortable. Select a vision for your future and stick to that mental projection until you've brought it fully to life.

S - Secure in yourself: In order to shun fear forever, you have to work on your self-esteem.  When you constantly live in the mindset of "I can't do it" or, "I'm not good enough," you narrow your window of success to a very slim opening and inadvertently put yourself down.

 I believe that  fears you don’t face become your limits. And the doubts you don’t deal with become your walls. Fear is the enemy of success. Large rewards only result from taking comparably large risks. If you're ruled by fear, you'll never take enough risks and never achieve success you deserve. Fear keeps us in the background. It convinces us we can never accomplish our dreams, tells us to keep quiet, and separates us from the ones we love. Fear has an unparalleled ability to freeze us in our tracks, and limit what we are willing to try. Fear makes us lead a smaller life.  Now, I'm actually really excited whenever I discover something that I'm afraid to do, because I know that something wonderful is going to happen--provided I summon the courage to take action.

I read another article which is “Facing Fear and Finding Freedom” by Joyce Meyer. According to this article, Fear is not from God but from Satan. Every time we feel fear in our life, it's a manifestation of the kingdom of darkness. Fear is the "master spirit." It's the spirit Satan uses to try to rule God's people and keep them from coming under the leadership of the true Master, Jesus Christ. Satan uses fear to keep people from enjoying life. Fear brings torment, and you surely can't enjoy life and be tormented at the same time.

         I believe that when we have already predicted the outcome for our self, we have already paralyzed our self from taking action.  It then becomes even harder to carry out whatever it is, we need to do as our subconscious mind has already told our conscious self what the outcome is, we then find our self-more stressed than before!  What we need to do is, replace these negative thoughts and worries with positive thoughts, and we do this by recalculating these risks from a positive side.  Once we have done this and analyzed our predictions and how we had come to them, then we can start the rehabilitation process of ridding our fears and keeping a positive attitude.

Blogpost 6: Consequences of Fear

          There are many things that we can be scared of or that bring about fear in us all in some way. What most people overlook however is that all fear actually comes from the same place, and is for the same functional reason. There are positive and negative consequences of fear, however fear is still a useful evolutionary tool in human survival. Fear is something we've all experienced and most of us would label as a negative or uncomfortable emotion Just a few days ago, when I was reciting my speech front of the audience my body was shaking, and my heart was beating so fast because of this, I’m doing awkward movement like holding an object.

         I read an article entitled “The Consequences of Fear” by Psychic Phillip. According to this article Fear causes people to stay in toxic relationships. Fear causes people to resist change. Fear causes people to repeat patterns in their lives that never worked for them and never will. Fear is about survival. Even when the threat is long past, the ego remembers and still reacts and controls. The cost to us is happiness and growth. Over time, we get further and further from our heart and our deepest longing. For many, pain defines their lives. Change can be a fearful worry to be avoided, even when necessary.

            For my own opinion, Fear effects are a form of crowd control that makes a victim to run in random directions, unable to perform most actions for a period of time. Feared creatures have a chance to break Fear when damaged. Any Fear, no matter the duration listed, will last a maximum of 8 seconds. The fact that we still have fears today and that they are still useful is testament to their being a good and not bad thing to have. There are a lot of seemingly irrational fears around today, but these likely are associated with something that was or is still dangerous, and so even these are a good thing.


             I read an article entitled “Side Effectsof Fear” by Charles Stanley.  According to this article Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. Fear hinders us from becoming the people God wants us to be. When we are dominated by negative emotions, we cannot achieve the goals He has in mind for us. A lack of self-confidence stymies our belief in what the Lord can do with our lives.  Fear can drive people to destructive habits.  Fear steals peace and contentment. 

          As I know, Fear effects have a damage limit, which appears to be based on level. Once the target takes a certain amount of damage, the fear effect will be broken, regardless of any remaining duration. This can allow you to deal a fair amount of damage to the target before it does so. Melee targets will also have to run back to the caster in order to resume attacking them, allowing ranged classes more time to deal damage. Ranged types may therefore wish to decide how far to allow melee targets to run before attacking, ideally leaving them with a long run back.

Blogpost 5: How Fear Works?

           It's dark out, and you're home alone. The house is quiet other than the sound of the show you're watching on TV. You see it and hear it at the same time: The front door is suddenly thrown against the door frame. Your breathing speeds up. Your heart races. Your muscles tighten. A split second later, you know it's the wind. No one is trying to get into your home.
     
         For a split second, you were so afraid that you reacted as if your life were in danger, your body initiating the fight-or-flight response that is critical to any animal's survival. But really, there was no danger at all.

I read an article entitled “How Fear Works” written by Faith Gallup.  According to this article, Fear in itself is not bad. It is by God’s design that we have an autonomic nervous system, for survival. When there is some life threatening situation, like an oncoming train, our body reacts instantly. A surge of adrenaline pumps through our body, allowing us to “fight or flight.” We have instant energy (and usually without thinking) to stay and fight the train, or run away. When we decide to run, and we are safely out of harm’s way, we are supposed to calm down, and return to normal state, without the level of adrenaline previously required. Our brain should do this, but sometimes it doesn’t always work that well. Sometimes, if we have had some trauma or very difficult things happened in our lives, the brain stays in fear mode. The activated state maintains the fear because the emotional memory has not been worked through. Even though the environment or dangerous situation is in the past, we carry the feeling of “…something’s wrong…” and physiologically we are still on hyper-arousal. So the brain says, “There must be some danger,” and creates thoughts and belief systems to support and explain where the danger is coming from.

               I learned that fight or flight reaction that occurs in the presence of something that is terrifying, either mentally or physically or one of the ways we can react when under stress. Essentially, the response prepares the body to either fight or flee the threat. It is also important to note that the response can be triggered due to both real and imaginary threats. Understanding the purpose of the fight or flight response can lead to greater insights into our own behavior when we’re stressed out. Even though the fight or flight response is automatic, it isn't always accurate. In fact most of the time when the fight or flight response is triggered it is a false alarm - there is no threat to survival.

              I read an another article entitled “About Fear and Panic” written by Mary Brandl. In this article, the human "fight or flight" response is instinctive. It can help us if we use it constructively. When we feel fear, it is our body responding to conscious or unconscious signals that something is 'off' or 'wrong' in a situation. The blood rushes out of the stomach, creating that "butterfly" sensation (the body has decided that digestion is NOT a priority at this moment). The body releases adrenaline and the heart starts pounding faster trying to get oxygen out to the limbs. All of this is an "emergency gear" the body can slip into in an emergency. People are often able to perform feats in this physical state that they would not be capable of under regular/normal circumstances.

           I always have a question in mind that how our body parts act when we are afraid or scared? In this article I found an answer to my question that . When we sense danger, the brain reacts instantly, sending signals that activate the nervous system. This causes physical responses, such as a faster heartbeat, rapid breathing, and an increase in blood pressure. Blood pumps to muscle groups to prepare the body for physical action (such as running or fighting). Skin sweats to keep the body cool.The important thing to take away is that the fight or flight response is an automatic response.

Blogpost 4: Fear can be Good and Bad

What is fear's purpose? How do you handle it? For instance, fear is something we've all experienced and most of us would label as a negative or uncomfortable emotion. While I am studying in college, I meet students on an almost daily basis who are influenced by negative fear thoughts.

Thinking about why people do this, makes me wonder about the purpose of Fear emotions. I really started wondering as to how many people really do allow Fear, anxiety, worry, etc. to freeze them into inaction in everyday life. They achieve a very negative result, one which I have to think, is not what they really want.

          I read an article entitled “Mastering Fear” written by Rabbi Noah Weinberq. In this article it is said that fear is like any other emotion—there are both positive and negative aspects. Negative fear is debilitating. Positive fear is exhilarating. With fear, you are out of the dream world and 100 percent into reality. It means negative fear make (someone) weak while positive fear make (someone) feel very happy. Personally, I look upon fear as a positive emotion. I know that uncontrolled this emotion can breed many negative results. But when controlled, this emotion can spur you into action like no other I know of. And I think that this is truly the reason for fear. Think of it as your best friend, preparing you for progress. Make friends with the unknown.         
       
             As I know that good side of fear is it alerts us to threats. Sometimes our fear can be a really useful gut-response that helps us anticipate and respond more quickly to a genuine threat. If something is unfamiliar, it might be dangerous, so, whenever we’re in unfamiliar territory, fear crops up and alerts us to pay attention. And of course, from a survival point of view, that’s really useful. Whereas,  Bad side of fear it takes away our creativity, imagination, freedom and peace. Fear stops us from pursuing our dreams. Fear destroys relationships and can make us physically ill. These four letters, FEAR, represent the most powerful negative emotion that exists.

         I read an article entitled “Fear-Good or Bad? Eliminate?” by Kevin Hogan. According to this article Fear evolved early in animal-kind and human-kind to keep us alive and to survive. Fear is a feeling, often intense and can cause you to feel anywhere from avoidant, to nervous, to panic, to phobic, to terror. It has two messages: Fight or Run. Fear is without question the most important of all the emotions. Fear can be triggered by thousands of different stimuli. It means that every time we do something we counter fear.

For me, Fear is positive when it motivates you to get out of a bad situation such as an animal chasing you or getting out of a burning car. Negative if it controls you and makes you avoid every situation so that you can't enjoy life. We should acknowledge the fear we are experiencing. Allow that it is a positive thing within us that warns us of some impending danger or harm. And then, analyze it to see if it is real or imagined, justified or not. When we recognize it's positive intent, it is no longer something to immobilize us, but quite the reverse, we can jump into action to remedy 'why' we are fearful.

This is only one person's opinion, but I feel it is better to believe in something beneficial that I can take control of, rather than be at it's mercy!.

Blogpost 3: Fear and Love

      Do you know, we are only capable of two emotion? When I read this, first thing that enter in my mind is " what about the other emotion, where they fall under?" Love and fear are the only emotions we as human entities are able to express. All the others are just sub-categorical emotions. For example, on love's side there is joy, peacefulness, happiness, forgiveness, and a host of others. On the other hand, fear reflects: hate, depression, guilt, inadequacy, discontentment, prejudice, anger, attack, and so on.

          

          I read an article entitled "Fear Consumes, Joy Builds Capacity" by Heidi. According to the article, Most commonly practiced (even promoted) parenting techniques use fear to make kids do what their parents want or need. And school only tends to heighten fear, particularly when it’s already pervasive at home. You put that child into a school situation where there are all sorts of expectations and they have little or no say in what or how they learn, and it only augments the fears.
               

       I agree with Heidi that parents should not use the bad parenting techniques. There's no denying that bad parenting practices, such as neglect, abuse, and exposing children to violence can affect a child's behavior and development. Parenting is a way that parents show their children love for them but many parents now a time can't understand that they are using a bad way to show love or help their children. They are just making them scared than the result will be this; children will scare to talk with their parents when something wrong or good happen to them. My message to parents .To help yourself get rid of bad parenting habits, you should learn to relax and be more tolerant towards your child. You must understand that children can be really a handful and it would not do you any good if you take everything so seriously.

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                    I read an article entitled “Love and Fear” by Joseph. According to this article Love is the cure for fear.Fear and Love cannot coexist in the same thought.  Living with love will open you up to a world full of exciting experiences. On the other hand, fear keeps you trapped from being and fully understanding the love that you are. Love or fear is the motivating force behind everything we think and do.

         I would like to say that Love is light while  Fear is darkness. When you turn on a light, darkness is no more. There is not a trace of it left! There is not even a hint of darkness ever having been there! God is love. Love is light. We are all children of God, therefore, in truth, we are only love. When we act out of fear, we are turning out the light, denying our truth, and entering into the darkness. We leave our love behind and attempt to be something we are not. We attempt to be apart from our Source; apart from God.

               Love and fear cannot coexist. Where one is, the other can't be also. The one will leave immediately, should the other enter its presence. If you find yourself in a situation where you are experiencing great joy, and are suddenly overtaken by fear, the joy is gone! But it works the other way too: If you are terrorized, frightened, or otherwise threatened in any way, all you need to do is turn to the love within, and the fear disappears.

" I think the big mistake in schools is trying to teach children anything by using fear as the basic motivation. fear of getting failing grades, fear of not staying with the class, etc. Interest can produce learning on a scale compared to fears as a nuclear explosion to a firecracker." - Stanley Kubrick 

Blogpost 2: Joy versus Fear

                 Are you sometimes frozen with a feeling of fear, a feeling you attach to “fear”, sometimes you may not even know what the fear is about but you certainly know the feeling. Something I often talk about with my sister is turning a feeling of fear into a feeling of joy simply by changing the name of the feeling. In my mind, that feeling of fear we get – the tension in the pit of the stomach, the taught muscles across the shoulders, that lump in the throat is the same feeling as joy, with a different name attached.

           Our fear, our anxiety, is about a sense that we lack control or we have lost or will lose control. Guess what? You can't control anything. We'd like to think we can, but we can't. We can only do what we are doing in the moment. And joy comes from squeezing that moment for all it's worth.

          
      Things may seem normal but it is enriched with so much meaning and connectedness. Joy is not laughing it is sometimes crying and feeling pain, but knowing that all that is good too. Fear, on the other hand, creates boundaries and impedes all connections but the connection with fear itself. Because fear breaks off our connection with our higher self, when we allow fear into our soul, we allow our double to take over, and we enter a reactive mode of behavior based on old habits.

           Joy comes not by the external events but by an internal transformation, a recognition of harmony, a sense of destiny that radiates like a ripple affecting the mundane events of your llife and others into the extraordinary while Fear also results in physical and chemical responses. Our lowest brain system, the reptilian brain, is operant in fear situations and fight-or-flight reactions. Blood rushes to the heart from the limbs, which feel cold and heavy. We tend to hold our breath. To speed up our reactions, our bodies produce extra cortisol, the continuous presence of which in the bloodstream can lead to serious health problem.

            I read an article entitled "Joy versus Fear" by Brian Germain. According to this article follow the thoughts and actions suggested by our fear, or learn what the fear is cautioning us about and then move on to enjoying the process. If we love what we are doing, there is no room for fear. If, on the other hand, we are fixated on the negative possibilities, our fear drives our minds toward the elaboration of those possibilities that we do not want to see happen, and we fuel the negativity. The choice about which reality we live in is entirely up to us. All we need to do is choose which side of the equation we give our attention to.

          I would like to say that we live in two minds fear and joy. Mostly, we live in fear. That fear is manifested as our everyday anxieties where we find ourselves living in the regret of the past, or grasping at the future while Joy is manifested in presence, that point at which we shed the past, let go of the future and are just there, where we are, in that moment.

      I read another article which is “Living in Fear versus Living in Joy” by Michael J. Formica. According to this article, Fear is manifested as our everyday anxieties where we find ourselves living in the regret of the past, or grasping at the future on the other hand Joy is manifested in presence, that point at which we shed the past, let go of the future and are just there, where we are, in that moment.

   As I know, Joy is waking up every morning and doing what I love. It is the most terrifying human experience. It is collected over time, fuels resilience, ensuring we'll have reservoirs of emotional strength when hard things do happen. It warms a person's hear on the other hand fear is more of an illusion than a reality, the probability of gaining control over it or other debilitating emotions is very high. We must develop and teach ourselves joy, much like the process of getting physically fit. 

          I believe joy is a spiritual practice we have to work at. For me, that means appreciating everyday moments:  outing with my friends, shopping with my family and so on. It means not living in fear of what I could lose, but softening into the moments I have. Remember, what you experience is all about what you are attaching thought to feeling about. If you are in fear, you will attract fearful thoughts and in so doing, attract all you do not want. Feel the feeling and name it joy – excitement – happiness – anything that lifts you up and let it lift you up. Enjoy and be all you want to be.

Blogpost 1: Fear Itself

           

           Of all the four letter words there are, I despise none more than the word fear. That single word has been the root cause of more failed people than any other word. Perhaps the thing people fear most is failure, because it leads to poverty, which is their real fear. 

              I asked myself what is fear all about? Why there are people who have a hard time to face or deal with their fear? Although sometime also me have difficulty to face my fear which is to stand upon the truth because there are some situation in that i cannot decide which side is right to take. All of us are faced with fear and most of us normally react in one of the two ways?  where we try to run away or freeze, where we do not know what to do and are paralyzed. Through these typical reactions, people allow their fears to play on their mind and reach uncontrollable controls. 

         I read this articles "Themes Of A Course In Miracles" by Teachers of God. According to this article, Fear is a symptom of your deep sense of loss. If, when you perceive it in others, you learn to SUPPLY the loss, the basic CAUSE of fear is removed.The Article indicate that we are not actually afraid of being fearful, and that we actually like being scared. Just look at the movies that we watch or some of the things we do in our spare time: riding huge waves, jumping out of planes and so on. The thing that really frightens us, deep down, is actually Love. As i read this article i learn that we only have two emotions that we are capable of are love and fear. Any state that is not perfectly loving is fear, the removal of which brings about a state of Peace which passeth understanding. This state is an experience that will show you the Truth: There really is not now, nor has there ever been, anything in all the world to fear. There is nothing to fear, but if you really knew that, panic and anxiety would never even occur to you.

" Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fear."  Richard Wilkins 

 "This is all you have. This is not a dry run. This is your life. If you want to fritter it away with your fears, then you will fritter it away, but you won't get it back later." - Laura Schlessinger

           

                For my own opinion, I think origin of fear lies in the unknown. Be it the darkness, ghosts, weather calamities or whatever is unknown to the man is feared the most. If you are walking in darkness, you are afraid to go ahead, fearing what will come next. However, as the light appears, the fear tends to settle down. Fear thus, is just a manifestation of your imagination ruled by cowardliness. When we get certain information on our fears, we get relaxed.